I am a woman, I have fought the good fight, I am a good little feminist, I’ve read “The second sex”and Germaine Greer….. I have talked about body fascists, I have addressed sexual inequalities with my kids….. I consider myself liberated, but today, right now, I have to say men are right, women are fucking stupid!
I am wondering is it just women who don’t work anymore, we are so focused on our family life, and “being there” for our husbands and children, we totally forget about ourselves, now my friends who work outside of the home aren’t like this, they make lots of time for themselves, hair appointments, girlie nights out, all becasue they feel they deserve it,but us stay at home moms, we seem to think we just aren’t worth it!
Now Jo, I am not talking about you here ok, so don’t get upset…….
I have some time to myself, and I ask my friends, the ones who live very locally can we do something, go to the movies, pub, pizza? And the three of them, all independently say the same thing, either, “Oh, ***** (husband) is going/might be going out to pub/squash/gym tonight”, or “But I haven’t seen ***** all day, we just want a nice quiet night in”. Now call me bitter and twisted……go on, I’d kinda like that! But hello, the fecking husbands are out all day working, now while they are working they get to do several things you don’t get to do as a stay at home mum….they get to interact with other adults, in adult surroundings, no ball pits or lime green seating in the boardroom, you get a lunch break, imagine, “hey kids, I’m just heading to the pub for 45 mins for my break, cover for me if social services call!” You also get to wee alone…..imagine, no wobbler trying to get the toilet roll, or no four year old running in clutching her crotch saying “I need to wee NOW!” So even though a husband gets to have a “real adult” life they still get first dibs on the socialising time, cos bless their little cotton bobby socks they just aren’t as strong as us women and need a life outside of their families and work.
Seriously, we are fucking morons……”Oh darling I know you want to go out with the girls, just so you can put on something with out baby vomit on it, but my job is so stressful, I just can’t handle sitting here alone tonight, stay in we’ll get a DVD and a take away….great! Oh seeing as you are staying in I’ll just pop out to the pub, I’ll bring back the DVD, later……..” WANKERS!
Sorry, I did it too, I let my own feelings of insecurity in the world let me feel like my need to get out weren’t as valid as my money earning husband’s, the only time I felt ok about asking for time out was when I was working full time! So now I am tempted, tempted to be a full time working mum again, I’d be giving every penny to childcare, but from previous experience I know I would be recognised and celebrated by my peers and society for working full time. So part of me says, FUCK YOU! Why the fuck is raising three children considered not fucking work! It’s is the hardest, shittiest job I’ve ever done (and I worked in Woodies DIY) and yet it is unrecognised, we slave away, unpaid, unrecognised, and the work that we do is what keeps society moving. Is there any other group in modern day society (not slaves) who work for nothing to make other peoples lives easier and keep society moving along? I don’t think so!
Love, love is a bloody bitch…oh I love you so I’ll have your babies, then I will sacrifice my own hopes and dreams to raise these children, unacknowledged by society or even you…. Great! All the while making your life easier and allowing you to be the father you want to be, no more, no less….being a father won’t affect your ability to be a engineer or a doctor or an office clerk, you won’t be passed by for promotions because you have to take time off to raise your family there will be no glass cleiling for you because you decided to reproduce……
Do I sound cynical?
Maybe it would be better if men had the ability to fuck our brains out…..it would make the rest of married life a lot easier to deal with!