Porn to be Wild!

As you might have noticed I’ve been considering my options as regards feminism, couple of weeks ago it was socialism and some of the implications on the family etc, then last week it was prostitution and how I could consider myself a feminist and still support it. This week it’s porn.

I have an interest in porn, now it wasn’t always so and as a much younger woman I thought it was the cause of violence against women, only made by women hating men. A lot of that was my own ignorance and insecurity, worried that my partner expected my body to be like the bodies in the magazines, or that our sexual encounters would have to up to porn star quality. But time passed and I suppose porn exposure meant I became immune to it, in fact I could appreciate it for what it was, a convenient stimulus, if my partner wasn’t around or in the mood! But over time I noticed something, something that I think is the really sinister thing about porn…you gradually become immune to it.

Did you ever wonder why there is every potential weird sexual activity on the interweb? People start out looking at nude pictures, then videos, and eventually they get bored, “Jesus, doggy style again????” So this time you find a site that has threesomes or moresomes…..then that just won’t do it, bondage? Cigarette Porn (I find that one really difficult to understand), Old ladies, dwarfs, vibrating fucking machines……I mean the list goes on, then one day you find yourself unable to come and suddenly the horse porn you dismissed seems like a great idea!

It’s over exposure, it’s a huge problem, it’s Internet porn, the fact that you are only ever a click away form something more risque and kinky, now that doesn’t mean it’s any better than before when videos from Holland were circulated between friends in the football club. The variety wasn’t there at all, people saw the same thing again and again and it was difficult to access more specialised sexual images, but surely that’s healthier ? In real life sex is repetitive, even if you are a bloody contortionist and know the Karma Sutra backwards, chances are your sex life will have some repetition involved in it! The omnipresence and variety of porn make it very difficult to keep any ones attention for any period of time, this can’t be good for real ( not virtual) sex, can it?

Then there is the other aspect of modern Internet porn I have issue with, You Porn, amateur porn sites, most of these are taken on phones and put up on the site by a participant, now personally I don’t really get this kind of porn, I like good lighting and I like pretty girls, not some ones granny and grandad doing it in a bondage swing (yes, yes, I will NEVER get that image out of my mind!). But I worry about these sites as do people give consent to have these videos put up on the Internet, how many of these happen when a girl is pissed off her face and winds up back in some guys flat? I assume anyone who has been in a long term relationship has spent an evening drinking champagne and filming themselves shagging (I have, with my ex, I have the tape… ) and my ex has kept the nude pics we took of each other when we were 19…I know, imagine that! But if something is on the net it’s not just about the couple of people involved is it?

So I have to admit to occasionally looking at porn now, but now anywhere near as much as I used to, I suppose my relationship is different now and what we both consider acceptable is still under negotiation? I think there will always be a porn industry, I can’t see you porn wiping out the multi million dollar companies who control the Internet sites, and I would say at least the girls on the professional sites get paid! I wish we didn’t live in a society where women, any woman felt she had to sell her body to make a living, or become a movie star or escape her life, but the reality is different and much like the regulation of prostitution if it was legal it would be easier to police and the girls would be protected.

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9 thoughts on “Porn to be Wild!

  1. I don’t find your bog standard red thong, thigh high boots porn bot all that attractive.

    This makes me a pervert or a freak, according to my best friend, who has I believe the most extensive porn collection of all time, it has its own server apparently.

    I only know what I like, when I like it.

    I think.

    I am now going away to erase the image of an old couple in a bondage chair…

    Thanks for that, I’ve just eaten

  2. I actually prefer the amateur stuff, since the pornbot (loving that, AC) thing really doesn’t do it for me either…

    But you have a great point about there being a lot of non-consensual stuff up on such amateur sites. More than once I’ve heard male friends joke about putting naked pictures or videos of their ex online as some kind of revenge.

    But worse than that are the videos where the girl is clearly too drunk or drugged to consent to sex, never mind to being filmed doing it. It really is scary.

    But excepting those examples, I don’t have a problem with porn… it’s consensual, and while the girls (and, to be fair and equal, the guys) probably aren’t living their dream life, they’re making money in what is for the most part a safe industry. Of course some people get exploited by rogue filmmakers and the like… but there are dodgy employers in every industry.

  3. …swing, oh crap, now all their bits are shuffling about the place, spewing geriatric sex-goo all over the curtains..

  4. Funny post. I’m not horrified by porn, though I think the industry is pretty evil. And it would be better if it didn’t exist.

    Cheerful porn with attractive healthy people in is one thing, but I’m terrified of seeing someone drugged, or other scary, upsetting stuff, that would put me off for life.

    I saw Dublin skanger porn once, it was Not Good. Embarrassing more than anything. And there was a scene on gravel. The gravel wasn’t part of the scene, like for S&M or anything, it was just… on gravel. ????

    Do you know what really doesn’t do it for me? Close ups. Especially of oral sex. That has to be a man thing.

    If I had an ex with naked pictures of me I would ask for them back. If I had left my ex and considered myself to have personal integrity, I would have given them back.

  5. I have to say Jo, the sexy photos and the sex tape…really doesn’t bother me, I have to say I trust my ex not to post up decades old photos of me on the blog, and if he did I’d just be glad they were pre babies!

    A friend gave me a tallaght Porn DVD, never watched it!

  6. Never do!

    Jeeze, posting them on the blog – I never even thought of that – you secretly want that, don’t you!

    😉

  7. Click on my name to get to my blogger profile, look at the music choices, click Gravity Kills, the first profile that comes up in the list is a blogger from the porn industry, who is very active on the rights of those working in the industry.

    I kind of suspect that more people are exploited in porn than one might like to think. I also think, as you say, that the relative freedom of it means people look for ever more odd stuff which can DEFINITELY lead to exploitation

  8. I like her stuff, have read a bit…very funny!

    You are right of course TC, the exploitation is rife, and the use of drugs means maybe you aren’t able to make real decisions evenif offered the chance?

    I just don’t know!

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